I love myself – and I like myself too, don’t get me wrong. But I came to realize that part of really loving yourself is seeing your flaws and working on improving the things you can…
It’s an ongoing process, and it is the toughest part of being a grown-up, I think, because our natural instinct is to deny or hide from our own responsibility in our behavior and its ensuing repercussions.
And it is extremely difficult but critical to look at ourselves and own our own crap, WITHOUT taking the tack of beating ourselves up and falling into a pit of guilt, despair and hopelessness so that we sink into defeat.
I always heard my parents and other ‘grown-ups’ say they never knew life would be so challenging and that we should enjoy our youth because being a grown up sucked (not in those exact words but you know what I mean…)
I never really understood it till this time of my life when I started on this journey to commit to living the best life I can by being the best I can be. You would think that sounds like a journey to see butterflies and zebras along a pathway filled with daisies and sunflowers – like a fun, positive, healthy thing.
And it is – but to get to the destination, you have to go through the twists and turns, the hills and gullies, the highs and lows of dealing with yourself exactly where you are – the good, the bad and the ugly.
That’s the part you don’t expect – and yet it is the only way to get to the destination.
Some parts of this journey are deeply personal. Some are intensely painful, to be honest, while others are completely exhilarating. Most importantly though, I think it’s important to share the things we can, because each one of us needs to go through this journey at some point – and while we can’t share everything with each other, we can certainly remind each other that we are not alone in this and encourage each other to not give up and to keep fighting forward – because each of us deserves to live our best life.
So embrace the glorious mess that you are – I certainly do! But we can’t settle for being less than all we can be – because we were created to be incredible!
“For we are the product of His hand, heaven’s poetry etched on lives, created in the Anointed, Jesus, to accomplish the good works God arranged long ago.” Ephesians 2:10 VOICE